RedFire (robinleia)

Resident Since: 2014-07-02 (11 years, 8 months ago)

TLDR: I'm not here to be your fantasy. I'm here to live mine.

Conversational advice. Take it or leave it. If you leave it, don't bother talking with me.

If you are a person that is so caught up in ego and self that you never ask questions over the course of a conversation, don't bother trying to have a discussion with me. I don't work that way.

Relationships are transactional. It's not just you telling me about you, then ignoring experiences or reflections that I offer in response.

And believe me when i tell you, I will drop convo nuggets to test you..haha..

And puhlease..if you are a man who thinks women are somehow less intelligent than you due to your biological makeup, or some random neurological bs you nitpick from a random study....ugh..get a grip.

I find that way of thinking absolutely repulsive. Because I am generally polite, I may allow you to talk yourself into your own ditch, and you will likely never know I think it, but I will find you sad, pathetic, and ignorant.

I know you do it to protect your fragile ego, and I don't respect that, though I may pity you. .

Relationships are a two way street. Hearing and listening are not the same thing. If you find yourself thinking about your response while someone else is speaking, you have a problem. Work on your ego.

Don't tell me I am not talking to you the 'right' way. There is no 'right.' Again, drop your ridiculous ego. You only control yourself, not anyone else. The thing is, how you perceive it is probably not how it was intended. In the end, If you don't like how someone talks to you, just walk away.. Don't insist someone changes who they are or how they converse in order to suit you (yes, I am doing that, but preemptively). Otherwise...How rude.

If you're too fragile to manage your emotions within a conversation, work on your emotional intelligence. That is not really my problem. I've got my own EQ to worry about, and I am always a work in progress. I don't need you to point it out, however. I recognize my flaws, and address them as needed.

Understand that we all see through a different lens, and many of us through multiple lenses. Don't assume the other person means something that they probably don't. Ask for clarification instead.

And puhlease, don't make up some dumb excuse either in the moment, or later on, to explain why you poof out. Be a grown-up. Tell the truth. There is no other way to maintain healthy relationships of any kind, be it friendship or other. Some of us are human lie detectors. Again, we may not tell you, but we know.

Side note: And for fks sake, get over the avatar snotty bs. I don't lock myself into one persona in here. I don't care if you do, but don't judge me if I don't. Get this..I sometimes wear pink..ahhhhhhh..no..don't drop your Mohito. I can go full goth one day and be dressed in pastel ruffles the next. I don't have to pretend I'm cool. I'm not a teenager and have nothing to prove. Maybe you could stop judging and not be afraid to switch it up sometimes yourself. Sheesh.

Rant over

Marketplace store: No Illusions:
https://marketplace.secondlife.com/stores/191111
Flickr:
https://www.flickr.com/photos/redfire1/

About me:
I create.
Probably AFK.
There's a human behind the avi. Have respect.
Gaawwdd...the absurdity of it all. HaHa.
When all else fails, just laugh
I'd rather talk to AI than most humans. Much more honest..and interesting.

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